Have you ever noticed that you can be feeling really crappy about life, yet someone can be incredibly jealous of what you have at the same time? I wanted to touch base on the concept that our focus creates our reality and also the comparisons we so easily make with others.
It’s so easy to get lost in negative thoughts when something isn’t meeting our expectations. When things aren’t happening the way we would like them to, or when we keep focusing on the the areas in life that we are ‘lacking’.
Having goals is a must, but the flipside of that can mean that we are constantly noticing the areas of our life that we would like to change. Or if you’re a do-er like me who likes to take action, get easily frustrated when something isn’t happening as quickly as we’d like it to – I have been here sooooo many times that I couldn’t even count.
If I can use myself and my life as an example….
Now I really do have a GREAT life, I am so incredibly grateful for everything that I have, my lifestyle, the people , my work etc (which I have created by the way, more on that another time)… but even though I am aware of how lucky I am, I can still often find myself getting caught in that mindset of lack and have to consciously pull myself up on it – which I do quite quickly now days thankfully!
If somebody asked me to write a list describing my life, I could easily write two VERY different lists.
I live in a beautiful suburb and get to look out over the water every day, and walk around the lake with the swans
I have an incredible boyfriend – he’s everything I’ve always wanted in a partner
I love my job and have freedom , I feel appreciated and get to work with my friends
My passion of Create Live Grow is taking off and I get to help thousands of women
I feel successful in my career and don’t have to stress financially
I get to live near my mum and spend regular time with her
I get to work out every day at the most amazing female fitness facility I’ve ever seen
My best friends and family support me in everything I do
I get to travel around the world with my work
The list could go on and on of all the amazing things in my life, woohoo! However I could also present a very different view
My boyfriend lives in another state and we rarely get to see each other
When we do see each other it’s only for a couple of days
We aren’t getting any info from his work about when he might be able to come back
We’ve been wanting to buy a house for so long and it’s still not happening
The rest of my family live interstate and I rarely get to see them
I don’t get to see my niece grow up
I feel frustrated when I want something to happen and it doesn’t in the time frame I was expecting
I get social anxiety at times
I barely touched Create Live Grow for a year and felt like I had waisted my energy and failed
Anyway enough of that depressing list!!!
My point is that every single day I could use either one of these lists as the marker for how my life is going. I can choose to focus on the areas that aren’t coming together, that are frustrating and I have no control over. Or I can choose to feel gratitude and excitement for the areas that are flowing beautifully!
And guess what!? It has been proven that the more we feel gratitude and love, the more we are able to manifest that in our life. Our Thoughts become our Feelings which really do create our reality. This is why the Create Live Grow app will have something called ‘vibrations’ – similar to an affirmation or quote, but instead you will spend time really getting into the FEELING of that message.
Now I have a question for you – When others look at me which list do you think they see? Particularly people on social media?
Unless you’re very close to me it’s not the second list, because they are all thoughts within my head, not things I share on Facebook – what a depressing Facebook feed I would have if I was complaining about lack all the time.
So the reality is that someone may be jealous thinking my life is all fine and dandy, while I’m sitting on my own repeating list B over and over again in my head.
Remember this next time you compare yourself to someone else – are you comparing your List B to their List A? If so that’s not reality.
Life is a mixture of everything, the goal is to accept what we can’t change, set goals for the future but always be grateful for what we have in the moment.
Everything is perfect xx