SO i was going to get fillers today, for the first time – you know where they jab a needle in your face – and I cancelled an hour before my appointment – let’s just say they weren’t too happy. But it made me want to write about the pressure we can put on ourselves to look a certain way.
Don’t get me wrong I have nothing against cosmetic procedures or wanting to look your best – to be completely open with you all I had a breast augmentation three years ago, so definitely no judgment coming from me.
But I have been taking close notice of my own mindset and thoughts and wanted to share, in the hope that being authentic helps others to just take a breath and decide what is right for them.
Seeing myself on video lately, has brought along its own set of moments. Sometimes I see myself and think, yea looking good sweet! Other times, I think omg who is that and why do I really feel as though it’s ok not to wear makeup?? haha
Which has also brought along extra pressures, not from anyone else mind you! But just from me. I have had thoughts of ‘needing’ all sorts of things – a nose job, fillers, mole removal you name it, and never say never but I really feel like it’s so important to find out WHY.
Sometimes we notice one little detail about ourselves, and FOCUS on it, blowing it up into this HUGE issue, that SURELY EVERYONE must notice and ‘how am I going to go another day without ‘fixing’ this’ , even though I’ve been living with it for years up to this point ?!?!
Then time will pass, and I realise that actually it’s not that big of a deal. And it makes up one whole of me , along with every other part.
I am definitely someone that thinks about consequences. And for many years I didn’t get a boob job even though I wanted one for my own reasons (not to please anyone else) – just for the fact that I didn’t want my daughters one day to feel like they needed to get one.
I look at my mum and how radiant and natural she is and she really is an inspiration to me, to show me that although she is a very attractive woman, beauty really does radiate from within. She literally glows, and that is what I am chasing.
The more I can work on myself within (whilst also obviously looking after myself on the outside and staying healthy), the more it will show physically, and the less I will look outside of myself for validation.
Sure there are a list of things I would change about myself if I had a magic button. But I am making a conscious choice everyday not to focus on them and instead be grateful for the things I do have.
As I said never say never, and if it feels really right for me to do any of these things or more down the track I certainly will. But it will be because I am already in a great place on the inside, not because I am trying to fix something or looking for a level of ‘perfection’ that really isn’t there. I would rather be a representation of health and self-acceptance than amplify the pressures on others because I am doing it for the WRONG reasons.
I guess what I am trying to say, is if this sounds like you, just take your time to find your why. Is one procedure really going to fix the ‘problem’, or are you simply going to find something else that needs changing. And if so, what is your real reason behind feeling that way.
And chances are, you are absolutely perfect just the way you are <3
Sending lots of LOVE, Let me know if this resonates with you, I would love to hear from you!
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